My wife and I get along, but she doesn’t treat my family well. There are days when she is normal, but other days she goes off the rails.
My wife does not help with anything and wants me to be at her beck and call. She does not work, so I feel under a lot of strain. She doesn’t even allow me to interact much with my family.
I used to be a very active and social person, but now I have no desire to do anything. I’ve grown really lazy and lost interest in everything. I don’t know how to manage this scenario and make my marriage work considering all of the challenges that my wife and I are facing.
– A disgruntled husband.
My marriage is in trouble owing to a dominating wife. How do we make it work?
Dear Reader,
I’m sorry to learn that your marriage has been in turmoil since the start. I appreciate your willingness to share your concerns. It appears that you are encountering considerable issues in your marriage, which is natural given the impact on your well-being. It is critical to handle these situations with empathy and understanding.
Relationships are complex and involve effort from both parties. Self-awareness, good communication, and mutual respect are all essential components of a healthy partnership. These characteristics are crucial in determining the nature of your relationship.
Self-awareness entails recognizing and comprehending your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and motives.
It entails being conscious of your own strengths, shortcomings, values, beliefs, and how you affect others. It’s all about understanding your own requirements.
A healthy partnership requires communication. Not communicating and attempting to maintain a relationship is equivalent to swimming in an empty pool — it is impossible.
The good news is that communication is a talent that can be learned.
We often communicate passively, not knowing what our own wants are and expecting our spouse to grasp our unsaid requirements. As this cycle continues, distance and contempt grow.
Have you addressed with your wife how her attitude towards your family makes you feel and how it affects you? Have you expressed to her?
Have you pushed your personal boundaries? I recommend you do so. Boundaries are boundaries that educate others how to treat us in the ways we require and what we are willing and unwilling to tolerate.
At the same time, have you been curious about your wife’s wants and what is happening to her that causes her to behave this way?
Again, recognizing and communicating each other’s requirements is critical. It appears that you may have lost control of your own life. I sense resentment at the current state of affairs while doing little to change it.
